Solo Diaries

It is time for us girlies to unlock the art of solitude. Enjoying our time alone. Taking ourselves on solo dates. And truly cherishing our own company.

This is coming from someone who does EVERYTHING alone. If I am going to see a movie I am going alone before I see it with my friends. I am going to that new restaurant in town by myself for lunch. And I am going on a trip all on my lonesome as well. Maybe it is being an only child or maybe I am just a freak but one thing college has taught me is that learning to love and cherish yourself and your alone time is DIRE.

I think taking yourself on these small "solo dates" is such a great method of self-love that is often overlooked by what's trendy in skin care or group workout classes that social media pushes as a way to love yourself. When really it could be going to a $5 movie on Tuesday at the Tuscaloosa CMX and laughing by yourself in the theatre or grabbing your favorite lunch and sitting out on the patio to eat it all on your own. Sure some people are going to look at you weird, but I feel like some people especially in college aim to please others and mold theirselves to what others want from them. And then when graduation hits people have no idea who they are, what they want to do, where they want to be, etc.

Learning about you is what is important. I am obviously not saying that hanging out with your friends is a bad thing but you need to learn about what you love. I love to read and write and find fun places in cities all over the world, and style statement pieces, etc but not all of my friends like or even care about stuff like that so should I just throw it away? No! I find time for myself to have creative outlets and do the things I love. There are so many people who hate to go out or talk to these guys in these frats or eat this food or workout this way but they do because their friends do. And there is no need for that.

Not saying you should tell your friends no when they ask to do something you may not want because it is important to make sacrifices for those you care about but if you notice them not doing the same for you then you know that's not a person who really cares about you and your passions and interests. They want you to be the person who bends to their needs and follows them around like a puppy. Moral of the story is to make sure you know who YOU are before you exit into the real world. Finding things you love and being able to spend time alone is detrimental.